06/24/19 – No Winners




So, yeah, I’m pretty sure what I had was acute bronchitis, maybe after a bout of the flu at the onset. I think it’s largely over, but it can leave one with a cough for a week or two afterwards. So, yeah, I’m totally :cough: fine now. πŸ™‚


      1. TB

        We’re all familiar with the rule, “never have a relationship with someone crazier than you are.”

        There is a footnote to this that reads “or was raised by wild animals.”

  1. russell styles

    If you are going to have a relationship, you need to know your partner’s limits. Emily is, in this respect, kind of like someone with Autism. You can’t expect that sort of thing from them. Demanding it is a sort of abuse.

    1. Rikard

      Agreed, kinda sorta. I don’t know if I would use the term “abuse” (mainly to prevent dilution of the concept) but yeah, you’re not wrong. I’ve been working on-and-off as a techer for teens and younger adults on the spectrum for the past 25-odd years and one thing I learned long ago was that not only does the ‘aspie’ (most pupils were highfunctioning ‘aspies’ – I don’t know if that term is a slur in the US, though; it’s not here) need training in social interaction – the why:s, what:s and what not to do:s – but theor caretakers need training in reading and understanding the way ‘aspies’ show emotion.

      Kind of how you work with abused dogs, no other comparison intended! Their socialisation is off-key and needs adjustment, while accepting that there is a limit. But I can’t train the dog if I don’t train myself to speak ‘dog’.

      Same thing wth any kind of disability which impairs social interaction and/or communication: both parties need to train, and to learn how to evlve and expand said training: to become self-aware and autonomous.

      Sorry for rambling, but this whole thing with Emily and Oierrot, and your spot-on comment seems to have touched a nerve.

      @mr Baldwin: have a care you don’t get an infection in or around your lungs. I’ve had what I thought was lingering bronchitis – X-ray showed fluid in my lungs and pneumonia.

      1. @Rickard, the lungs keep improving, albeit slowly. But trust me, I’m terrified of pneumonia, and so I’m ready to go the moment it takes a turn. Even though I DO have to be reserved about it because of our country’s lack of universal healthcare. I have insurance, but not in New Mexico where I am this year (I “live” in Washington state), so it only covers a fews things in an emergency.

        1. Gregg Eshelman

          That’s the #1 problem with health insurance in the US, that it’s not like car insurance or AAA, buy it in one State and it applies the same no matter where you travel. Can buy car insurance online from a company that has one office in one State – but health insurance must have physical offices in each State they sell in.

    2. Muzhik

      JUST finished a book related to this: “The Bride Test” by Helen Hoang. It is a romance, which I decided to read after hearing an interview on NPR with the author, who has Asperger’s. She got around to writing this after remembering talking with a friend of hers back in high school (?) who had mentioned casually that Ms. Hoang had a hard heart, that she couldn’t love.

      Remembering that conversation got her thinking about how she expresses love with her husband and two children, and so she wrote a novel about a man with Aspergers, whose mother and aunts don’t really grasp what that means and just think he’s “strange” or “shy” (The family, BTW, are all Vietnamese refugees, so there’s the whole cultural thing going on.) The mother wants grandkids, so she goes back to Vietnam and finds Tua, who reminds the mother of what SHE was like before being forced to come to America and becoming a great financial success. So she brings Tua to America to see if she can help her “shy” son not be so shy and start making grandkids.

      It’s an interesting read if you want some insight into what loving and living with someone with Asperger’s is like.

    3. @Russell, well, even if only one person in a relationship is on the spectrum, both people can have needs in a relationship. Pierrot is sort-of making demands, but is also just defining his needs.

      I think one can make demands on someone with Aspergers and do it in a way which is abusive, but I don’t think demanding it as a need can be so easily defined in-and-of-itself as abuse.

      1. Gregg Eshelman

        Emily just took the most direct action she could think of, never thinking “What if I just tell him about the danger and tell him I’m assigning these nice thugs to guard him and our daughter? Nah. He’ll want to argue and we’ll have a big fight…”

  2. War Pig

    I agree with @Rikard, Chris. If you still show signs of fever, get thee to a doctor. Pneumonia of that sort can blow up quickly and is particularly nasty. You HAVE had both your pneumonia vaccines, yes? Even with the vaccine you can develop chronic pleural empyema if the infection hides. You don’t want to know the treatment for that. Rather uncomfortable.

  3. Peter Rogan

    Chris, get that damn’ throat checked out. I’m still recovering from a strep through I got two months ago. You do not repeat DO NOT want to leave it alone. Get some facts and a treatment schedule. Believe me, you’ll be better for it.

    Pierrot and Emily got along well together long enough to have a child together. That they now fracture tells me there was more to it that this one instance, which broke the camel’s back. Without knowing more about their living arrangements I can’t say what the future might look like, but Emily is known for going off alone and pondering her will by herself. I’d like to think she knows going back to Pierrot, and being a family again, requires more from her than she’s provided. I hope her dissatisfaction with her job resolves as a motivation to have a family and let the Galaxy go hang. We can only hope.

    By the way, if Nogg was a shirt collar back from the laundry, I’d send him back with a tart note: “Too stiff. Unstarch.”

    1. Gregg Eshelman

      Chronic strep infection is a pretty common thing among people who had it prior to availability of antibiotics, or who went through the course of the infection without antibiotics and didn’t have extreme symptoms.

      My father had it either before or during WW2. (He was born in 1938.) The rest of his life he had recurring pains on one side of his body and other issues. The only thing that helped was taking a penicillin pill every day. The other treatment for chronic strep is a liquid penicillin shot. IIRC it can be monthly or every 2 or 3 months. As yet nothing has been developed that can 100% root out the infection if it’s not taken out with antibiotics while there are still initial symptoms.

      Warning! Some history.

      During WW2 all the penicillin that could be manufactured was reserved for the Allied military forces. One problem with it was the process to stabilize it so it would stay in a person long enough to do its job hadn’t been invented. The first person cured of an infection with the antibiotic took all the penicillin in the world. During the war, soldiers with infections had to be on an IV drip and their urine was collected to refine the unused penicillin that had run right through, anywhere from 40 to 99 percent, so only 1 to 60 percent of it did anything against invasive bacteria.

  4. Muzhik

    Call some of the local churches and see if there are any free clinics in the area. They’ll treat anyone, even the odd (I mean, REALLY odd) artist just passing through.

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